Safe People: How to Find Relationships That Are Good for You and Avoid Those That Aren't

By Henry Cloud

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Drs. Henry Cloud and John Townsend offer solid guidance for making safe choices in relationships, from friendships to romance. They help identify the nurturing people we all need in our lives, as well as ones we need to learn to avoid. Safe People will help you to recognize 20 traits of relationally untrustworthy people. Discover what makes some people relationally safe, a Drs. Henry Cloud and John Townsend offer solid...

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October 22nd 1996 by Zondervan

(first published May 13th 1995)

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Quotes From "Safe People: How to Find Relationships That Are Good for You and Avoid Those That Aren't"

"This is one of the marks of a truly safe person: they are confrontable."
"You aren't alive if you aren't in need."
"People with a style of denial and blaming are definitely on the list of unsafe people to avoid. 10."
"We often hear of someone saying, ‘So you don’t trust me’ or ‘Are you questioning my integrity?’ or ‘You don’t believe me.’ They get defensive and angry because someone questions their actions, and they think they are above being questioned or having to prove their trustworthiness. But none of us is above questioning."
"We grow in part by confessing our faults and weaknesses to each other (James 5:16; Eccl. 4:10). If we are always being strong and without needs, we are not growing, and we are setting ourselves up for a very dangerous fall."
"Defensive devaluation is a protective device that makes love bad, trust unimportant and people "no darn good any way". People who have been deeply hurt in their relationships will often devalue love so it doesn't hurt so much. And they often become resigned to never loving again."

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