Gina Senarighi Quotes
“While many of us struggle with taking too much ownership over things that are not ours, there’s
always a truth that both parties contribute to every conflict.
Sometimes your part might be as simple as not speaking up or not staying curious; other times it might be a bigger issue, like a tendency to blame or shout, a lack of accountability, an inability to respect boundaries or projecting insecurities.”
“Self-compassion is critical in accountability. We often overcorrect by shaming and blaming
ourselves or under correct by avoiding ways to face accountability directly.
Using self-compassion doesn’t mean letting yourself off the hook for missteps, but owning them and still holding space to love yourself.
Adding compassion to accountability processes decreases shame and isolation and increases growth and connection.”
“Learning to accept and move through healthy conflict is an essential component of keeping
passion alive long-term in partnerships. Couples who honor individuality and autonomy often
experience more fulfilling intimate connections because they more easily save space for
fascination, independent growth, and robust personal adventures.”
“Emotional intimacy is something we all deeply crave in relationships. It's that feeling you’re really understood and loved by another not in spite of, but along with your imperfections. It’s a deep sense of knowing, feeling “gotten” by someone who really matters to you.
It’s arguably the best part of being in a relationship. And it’s extremely rare.”
“Often couples are deeply connected, fascinated really, with each other in the first weeks of the
relationship but as years pass we build familiarity (which is a good thing) and our curiosity wanes.
We get out of practice staying curiously engaged. Asking strong follow up questions is one place to start that shift.”
“Couples who stay curious about each other, engaged in learning about their partners, open to growing together fare better long term. They're able to adapt to changes and navigate bumps in the road with resilience.
And they maintain passion and intimacy by fueling a sense of discovery and space for fascination, mystery, and surprise.”