Quotes by Erich Fromm

"Love is a decision, it is a judgment, it is a promise. If love were only a feeling, there would be no basis for the promise to love each other forever. A feeling comes and it may go. How can I judge that it will stay forever, when my act does not involve judgment and decision."

"A person who has not been completely alienated, who has remained sensitive and able to feel, who has not lost the sense of dignity, who is not yet "for sale", who can still suffer over the suffering of others, who has not acquired fully the having mode of existence - briefly, a person who has remained a person and not become a thing - cannot help feeling lonely, powerless, isolated in present-day society. He cannot help doubting himself and his own convictions, if not his sanity. He cannot help suffering, even though he can experience moments of joy and clarity that are absent in the life of his "normal" contemporaries. Not rarely will he suffer from neurosis that results from the situation of a sane man living in an insane society, rather than that of the more conventional neurosis of a sick man trying to adapt himself to a sick society. In the process of going further in his analysis, i.e. of growing to greater independence and productivity,his neurotic symptoms will cure themselves."

"Love isn't something natural. Rather it requires discipline, concentration, patience, faith, and the overcoming of narcissism. It isn't a feeling, it is a practice."

"If other people do not understand our behavior—so what? Their request that we must only do what they understand is an attempt to dictate to us. If this is being "asocial" or "irrational" in their eyes, so be it. Mostly they resent our freedom and our courage to be ourselves. We owe nobody an explanation or an accounting, as long as our acts do not hurt or infringe on them. How many lives have been ruined by this need to "explain," which usually implies that the explanation be "understood," i.e. approved. Let your deeds be judged, and from your deeds, your real intentions, but know that a free person owes an explanation only to himself—to his reason and his conscience—and to the few who may have a justified claim for explanation."

"Immature love says: 'I love you because I need you.' Mature love says 'I need you because I love you."


Books by Erich Fromm

  • 1984
  • 3,383,470 ratings
  • July 1950 by Signet Classics

    (first published June 8th 1949)

  • Escape from Freedom
  • 10,986 ratings
  • September 15th 1994 by Holt McDougal

    (first published 1941)

  • Мати або бути?
  • 8,400 ratings
  • 2020 by «Книжковий Клуб «Клуб Сімейного Дозвілля»

    (first published 1976)

  • The Art of Being
  • 3,572 ratings
  • September 1st 1994 by Bloomsbury Academic

    (first published 1989)

  • The Sane Society
  • 2,104 ratings
  • March 26th 2013 by Open Road Media

    (first published 1955)

Erich Fromm
  • Erich Fromm

  • Date of birth: March 23, 1900
  • Died: March 18, 1980
  • Born: in Frankfurt am Main, Germany.

  • Description: Erich Fromm, Ph.D. (Sociology, University of Heidelberg, 1922), was a psychoanalyst and social philosopher who explored the interaction between psychology and society, and held various professorships in psychology in the U.S. and Mexico in the mid-20th century.

    Fromm's theory is a rather unique blend of Freud and Marx. Freud, of course, emphasized the unconscious, biological drives, repression, and so on. In other words, Freud postulated that our characters were determined by biology. Marx, on the other hand, saw people as determined by their society, and most especially by their economic systems.